Lets NOT play MYSPACE WARS
I have been on myspace for over 10 years now and I have seen it all… every reason and way a profile can be used and represented,.. from trying to hook up with chicks/guys to proclaiming your love for your sweetheart/family to selling a product/service. I applaud the fact that so many see myspace the way I see it… a powerful tool that can be used for positive purpose and result, going beyond the simple minded “hey, lets hook up” mentality that is also present here. I am also sorry to say that some people REALLY go off the chain and make the positive tool not so positive by exhibiting bad behavior and choices in how to spend ones time and energy. There is no APP for it, but lots of people play MYSPACE WARS.
Close your eyes for a minute….. Imagine being in the middle of a big field and taking a peaceful walk. You are zen… Silence surrounds you and serenity fills your soul. Out of nowhere comes a person shooting at something or someone with a big noisy machine gun and bullets wizz past your face,.. completely shattering your whole peace vibe. …THIS my friends, is what it feels like to be a innocent bystander when a MYSPACE WAR is going on around you…and you don’t know and you walk right into it. When you log on to your page and you see VERY angry status messages FULL of ugliness and profanity posted on your page… things like: “for my ex husband…. you A##HOLE! I HATE YOU AND THAT C&NT THAT YOU LIVE WITH! GO DIE YOU SCUM! YOU F&CKING DONT LOVE HER!” and blah, blah, blah… You get the picture. When I see messages like that I can’t help but go ‘wow… that’s ALOT of angry energy!’. It’s most disturbing to see messages like that…For people to post that kind of intense rage and know other people can see it…not just those that they want to see it, but complete strangers that did not cause the rage to begin with (is most indelicate)… And I wonder if they ever stop and think “maybe I should not post something like this…it’s too intense”
See, here is the problem with posting stuff like that…not only are innocent people being exposed to your rage and your ugly side but the people you are writing for will not feel the least bit bad about you being that mad. Lets just say the person you are raging over is a jerk and deserves the angry words….. Well, if that’s true then he or she is going to get a lot of joy reading how upset they have made you, and probably keep doing it if that’s their nature to do so. In a way, they have won the battle…They know whatever they did has stressed you out and they can laugh knowing they just ruined your day… So, you did not hurt them at all. You just made them happy AND you drained your OWN energy in the process….. a double negative for you. The best thing you can do to a negative energy drain is disconnect from it and turn your back… If you do that and show no (reaction), then the person hurting you or trying to hurt you does not know which way to go with that because you are not giving any responses. Some people are so bored and negative that even negative attention is still attention in their book and they will poke at you if it means you will pay attention to them. Turn your back and cut them off.
It’s really sad to know that loneliness and jealousy in some people can bring out the (negative) drama. Sometimes the envy defines true reason. Some people on myspace don’t make sense because they try to lay claim to others they do not know or barely know… just because they are attractive. They will do their best to knock out whatever competition they think there is, writing emails to others on the friends list and claim a false relationship or connection,… and maybe ( even go as far as) threaten them somehow…..ugh! It is stupid what some people do. When I first (started) talking to my husband here on myspace, a friend of one of his myspace friends saw my blog about speaking to my husband and told this friend about it and she wrote to me claiming to be his “girlfriend”. I went to her profile and found out she was in England…and after talking to my husband to be sure of all facts I wrote to her and told her politely to screw off and that she lied. You can’t be a true “girlfriend” or serious love interest unless you have actually met and spent time together…..there is no getting around that fact…and laying claim to a stranger is wrong…and harassing innocent people, even more wrong. A TRUE friend does not get angry if they have an attractive friend and that person has or finds someone to love. Love should be celebrated, not booed and hissed at. In a situation like that you say “congratulations”! I bet she/he is cool and makes you happy”, (and) not: “…you jerk! Why did you pick her/him instead of me?!” (It is a juxtaposition between being) a true buddy… and (being) just a selfish self-serving soul whose only reason for being around someone is (is for purely selfish) motives and gains…and that is no real friendship at all.
Do I think it is sad that a lot of couples here on myspace have to hide the fact they are together because of the aforementioned selfish self-serving people, who would flip out if the relationship were revealed publicly? Yep! Do I think it is sad that some people use myspace features like bulletins,.. blogs, status updates and emails to harass, embarrass, and tick off others? Indeed yes. To those people I say : ‘what the frak are you doing?’ Seriously… that is not what that stuff was created for….Stop acting like little petty children and move away from your playschool sandbox mentality and GROW UP ALREADY. If someone is meant to be in your life whether its a friend or a love interest you won’t get them in your life being a jerk or engaging others in a negative competition… By creating the competition/war, all you are doing is showing a VERY unflattering ugly side of yourself. If a person is meant to love you they will be drawn to you and come to you without a fight, and not because you played KING OF THE HILL and won. So, cut it out if you are playing (such games). I think some of the drama and politics get out of hand and lessen the fun of being on myspace……people harassing others (by) using status updates, other people spying on other people’s profiles for other friends or creating fake profiles so they can stay under the radar….geez….can we just STOP and be rational people here? If a person is harassing you, you DO have choices you know… See those DELETE and BLOCK buttons?.. Use them. That is why they exist. If the harassment is really serious to the point you honestly fear for your life in some way, report the person to myspace immediately. Forward all emails and messages to them as proof of harassment. If you need to report them to the police, (do so). So much bad energy and harassment could be stopped if people just used the darned block button feature when it starts….. It is amazing how many people let it go on when it does not need to. Don’t get sucked into a war here. There are so many other ways to spend your time other then that.
That’s all for now… Sending hugs to everyone!
____________________________________
LAUNCHING ‘THE WRITER OF NOTE INITIATIVE’
The INBEAT’s LIFE JOURNEY COMMUNITY ( www.myspace.com/inbeatlife ) is pleased to announce the launching of the
‘THE WRITER OF NOTE INITIATIVE’.
Under this program, a Writer’s Article will be featured periodically on the INBEAT Websites. The selected Writer’s Article will delve into the Topic that will be the focus of one of the Books that the Community is working to publish. Thus, the Featured Article would eventually wind up being one of the Chapters of the Book.
The First Book that the Community is currently working on is under the subject heading of ‘HUMAN RELATIONS AND DYNAMICS’. (There will be other books with different subject headings to come later). The Featured Article
of a ‘WRITER OF NOTE’ shall be under this heading, and will be at least 10 pages long. The INBEAT Life Journey Community can be contacted atinbeatlife@myspace.com.
As stated in the INBEAT Life Journey Community’s Mission Statement that is attached below, proceeds from Books’ Sales shall be applied toward theINBEAT GLOBAL FUND.
Thanks and we look forward to reading your Articles!
E.N. … January 7, 2009
____________________
